We’ve all been through the sexual rut, it is the ebb and flow of relationships. The great thing about the rut is that it does not have stick. Eventually the hum drum of the routine rut turns into the daily grind, if you catch my drift.
I usually get out of the rut by remembering that my libido doesn’t just turn on and off by itself. I have to give myself a little nudge here or a tickle there and then all systems go. It usually always starts with my own self loving. I whip out my best vibrating friend at any chance I get for a little business time. And considering I’m coming out of a rut, I mean serious business.
I’ll take my vibrator with me in the shower, take some time with it for study breaks and use it for a sleeping aid. Once I routinely make a conscious effort to masturbate for these essential activities, it starts to just come naturally. Eventually I am masturbating whenever I just feel that urge. The more I’m getting off, the more I want to keep getting off.
Partner sex may be more difficult to get yourself back into because you have to think about someone else. When you masturbate you can just stop and go whenever you like, but a partner might be put off by that behavior. They might worry something is wrong with them.
Instead of having sex whenever you feel like it and never having it happen, start planning ahead of time. You can think something like, when I get home from work I want to have sex or tomorrow after dinner or think about how often you want to have sex each week and make it happen. If the time comes and you think you are not necessarily in the mood, go ahead and start something up anyway. Once you start going at it that feeling will most likely change and you’ll be quite happy that you did.
Just like the story of the mouse and it’s cookie, the more sex you get, the more you’ll want.
Hmm, well in my case I think that is the problem – the more you get, the more you want, I mean
. I have little time as is, so having sweaty, passionate, and lengthy sex sessions sound amazing but probably not the best thing considering school and jobs. But I agree that sometimes you need a lil’ push here and there to get it going, and you will be glad you did afterwards. Keep it going, these posts are clear and refreshing.
haha this is true, I only wish there were a little more time in the day for some lovin’.
I think that this might be more relevant to women’s sex drive, where sometimes it is difficult to just be in the mood for sex, but that if you just start the stimulation then you’ll probably want to keep going. It is a good thing for men who date women to know this… so when there is a rut, it doesn’t necessarily mean she isn’t into you anymore.