5 ways to make masturbation even better

I think we can all agree now that plenty of women enjoy masturbation at least as much as men. But the way women enjoy masturbation can vary widely — and many need a bit of extra help getting themselves in the mood. I like to think that my masturbation dates deserve just as much seduction as my partner explorations. So here are my 5 suggestions for fashioning an unforgettable night in with yourself:

1. Mood Music. I have an iTunes playlist covertly entitled ‘rr’ for rabbit rock (named after my rabbit vibrator, naturally). Every time I find a song that would be a good romp session anthem, I add it to my self-loving rr soundtrack. This is also fun because later when you hear one of the songs — at a party, say, or in the supermarket — you are reminded of those same tingles you felt before and it becomes a private inside joke with yourself.
2. A good sex toy. I have become a kind of connoisseur of sex toys over the years and have found that a quality vibrator will always do the trick. I am a firm believer that one size (and shape) does not fit all when it comes to sex toys, so it’s up to you to find what you like. Experiment and explore. You and your sex toy will make for the ultimate tryst.
3. Fantasy fucking. Sometimes I will turn to porn, sometimes music, but when all else fails, a wild fantasy can never do me wrong. Our brains are one of the most powerful sex organs and masturbation is the best way to exercise our creativity. Try to stay conscious of the things that turn you on throughout the day in order to better discover your own sexual appetite and use it as material for a future self love session.
4. The freedom to be loud. My usual go-to noise canceling option is to have my vibrator under the sheets and to breathe my heavy breaths into a pillow. However, once I get to know my roommate’s class or work schedules, I find myself enjoying more home-alone time. When you don’t have to worry about anyone overhearing (or walking in on) your bliss and buzz noises, you can let yourself go and ultimately feel your orgasm much bigger and better.
5. Tuning in to yourself. This is a little more abstract compared to the rest and probably much more vital. I close my eyes and take full breaths. I make sure to be very conscious of every part of my body. It’s important to be completely engaged by all your senses. What do your sheets feel like? What does your skin feel like? (Moisturize with sensual lotions if your answer is “scaly.”) What can you smell? (Light some candles if your answer to that question isn’t pleasant.) What does your breathing sound like? And so on. Remember that loving your body, physically and emotionally, is key to getting pleasure from it.

Also posted on Em & Lo’s site here!

Review: Velvet G Spot Vibrator

The Velvet G Spot Vibrator is a Doc Johnson product endorsed by Jenna Jameson and was sent to me by theadulttoyshoppe. This is a one pattern vibration toy where the bottom of the toy turns so that the vibration strength is on a spectrum. The more you turn the more intense the vibrations will be. The vibrations are pretty decent for this kind of affordable toy, only $23.99. But don’t expect vibs like the hitachi magic wand. It requires, but does not come with, two AA batteries.

When it comes to pleasuring your g spot it is important to get aroused first in order to get warmed up. It is similar to putting a vibrator directly on your clit when you are not aroused yet, it is somewhat shocking and uncomfortable. I found this toy to work well with exterior use. However, in certain positions the batteries would move and make the vibrations awfully loud.

I’ve only ever used glass g spot toys, so I was not sure what to expect with the vibrations on my sweet spot. I’m not sure if this is common with many gspot vibs, but the vibrations were less when they were inside and pressed against me. I enjoyed it more when it was on a very low level and I brought the toy closer to the front of my body in a knocking sort of motion. The shape of this toy was good for that kind of motion. The head of the toy is bigger than I expected, so for those of you who like a good amount inside, this toy might be what you are looking for.

10 reasons why I like shower sex

As you might know by now, I intern for sex authors/bloggers Em & Lo. Today they posted my confession on the 10 reasons why I like shower sex….

I am a total believer in water as a form of therapy. It relaxes me like nothing else, which is why I decided to make the shower the first place I ever masturbated, way back when. So I think, why not bring my partner into that space every now and then too? Being in my partner’s arms under the hot shower head is one of the warmest and most intimate moments I know. And so, for all the shower sex haters out there (ahem, including right on this site), here are my top 10 reasons why shower sex is affectionate, practical, and hot. No, really.

1. The shower is the only place where you can use the shower head as a sex toy.
2. It’s good to mix things up — the shower is a new place to do it, and, unlike a hotel room, it’s free.
3. Got roommates? The running water of the shower disguises your glory moans.
4. Even when things are getting dirty, the shower keeps everything clean. It’s much easier to wash off that pearl necklace when the water is already running.

read this rest here!

Concluding Masturbation Month with an Interview with Betty Dodson!

 To conclude masturbation month this year, here is an interview with the mother of masturbation herself, Betty Dodson:

 

What do you think characterizes a positive attitude towards sex?

Keep an open mind and be willing to experiment with new ideas and ways to enjoy yourself.

Why do you think masturbation is important?

Masturbation is the foundation for all of human sexuality. It’s our first natural activity and it sustains us throughout our lifetimes.

Describe your first experience with masturbation.

 

I was 5 years old and Mother was driving all 4 of her children to meet up with Daddy who’d taken a job in California. After making sure my 2 younger brothers were asleep, I quietly rocked on a pillow pulled up tightly between my legs. I forgot about the rear view mirror so my mom saw the whole thing. She never said a word because she felt that masturbation was a natural activity for kids. I was very lucky to be raised by an orgasmic mother.

 

How do you like to pleasure yourself? Are there any specific places, motions etc. What is your favorite sex toy? 

My first true love was an overstuffed rabbit, my pillow and finally my own fingers. Then I discovered boys and penises. Eventually I explored electric vibrators and dildos along with the many sex toys that are available. I’m presently loving my Mystic Wand combined with a black hand carved Obsidian dildo.

What is your favorite sexual fantasy?

If I tell you that I’ll get arrested for sure!

Masturbation Month: Interview with Carlin Ross

Carlin Ross had a career in law and telecommunications and moved on to work with woman’s sexuality. She is currently partnered up with Betty Dodson, where they run a sex information site helping women around the world achieve orgasm.

What do you think characterizes a positive attitude towards sex?

Someone who has sex for pleasure and connection NOT to get things or
manipulate people.  Also, someone who knows how to stimulate
themselves and shares that with their partner.

Why do you think masturbation is important?

We masturbate in utero…when we’re a fetus.  It’s how we become
sexual beings so if it’s blocked we can’t move forward and have
satisfying partner sex.  Also, it’s the constant in our lives.  You
will always masturbate.

Describe your first experience with masturbation.

I remember playing in the bathtub with the water running.  Maybe I was
6 or 7.  I was taking this little boat and dunking it under the stream
of water – the water hit my vulva and it felt good.  I didn’t think
about it or know exactly what I was doing but I scooted forward so the
stream ran directly over my clitoris and had an orgasm.  From then on,
I love love loved bath time.

How do you like to pleasure your? (any specific places, motions, etc.)

I use the 3 toys: the Hitachi Magic Wand, the Split Dildo and some lubricant.  I used to have tension orgasms but now I follow Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll technique.  Spread your legs apart holding the vibrator over your vulva.  Then rock your pelvis forward and then back so the vibrator runs from the top of your pelvic mound to your vaginal opening.  Just keep doing that – keep breathing – and ride the waves of orgasm.

What is your favorite sex toy?

My filthy mind

What is your favorite sexual fantasy?

Any sort of rape scenario (I know it’s taboo that’s why it’s hot) or a
scene where my boyfriend walks in on my having sex with someone else.

Interview with sex blogger Pocket RockettZ

The masturbation month interview today is with sex and beauty blogger Pocket Rockettz… enjoy!

What do you think characterizes a positive attitude towards sex and how can we promote this attitude?

I think a positive attitude about sex is being able to revel in your own sexuality.

Being positive is looking at sex as a good, healthy, fun activity instead of a shameful, secretive, bad habit.

That is how a lot of people look at sex. They think of it as nasty instead of fabulous.

That goes for viewing other peoples sex choices too. Live and let live. It’s all good.

What advice would you give for a first timer’s sexploration? (young or old)

I’m only 21 so am just really getting into exploring my sexuality.

My advice for other people just starting on a journey of sexploration is to keep an open mind and try everything twice or maybe even three times before you make up your mind. Be creative and really explore.

I became sexually active in my mid teens, but didn’t start to explore outside of the box until about a year ago.

Embrace your ideas and fantasies.

Why do you think masturbation is important?

Masturbation is important in so many ways. Not only does it make you me much more in touch with myself sexually, but it also keeps my spirits high. It’s hard to be angry about the little setbacks in life when you have just had an orgasm.

It’s easy to great the day when you have just cum.

Describe your first experience with masturbation.

When I was very young I found out by accident that if I sat forward on my bicycle and went down a certain bumpy alley it felt very good.

I went up and down that alley hundreds of times.

My first orgasm didn’t happen until maybe the third day of alley riding, and it almost made me crash my bike.

How do you like to pleasure yourself? Are there any specific places, motions etc. 

I like very small and mid powered pocket rocket styled vibrators best. I mostly stick with clitoral stimulation and use just a tiny amount of lube on the tip so I don’t make a mess.

I of course use many different methods to keep things fresh, but that is my favorite and most common way to self pleasure.

What is your favorite sex toy? Are there any colors, shapes, textures that you particularly like?

Pocket Rocket vibes. Hard plastic, I always have one with me just in case I get the urge.

What is your favorite sexual fantasy?

My fantasies change a lot so I really can’t say I have a favorite. What is my favorite fantasy today may not even be a fantasy tomorrow.

Anything else you’d like to add?

I wish people would be more open about sex and masturbation in general.

It is hard to talk about sex sometimes when people are so uptight about it.

Thoughts on masturbation from Jamye Waxman…

Continuing our celebration, here is an excerpt from Jamye Waxman’s book Getting Off…

” It’s not a need, it’s a want. Women don’t need to masturbate. For most of us it’s not a primal urge, a sudden ‘must-do’ way of releasing the pent-up energy we feel we have to free into the universe. Most women masturbate because they like how it feels, or they want to know what it feels like because maybe they’ve never had an orgasm before. Women who masturbate are open to the sensations going on in their body. We don’t think of masturbation as a reward for being good, or as consolation for being alone. This might surprise you, but more women masturbate when they’re having sex or are sexually fulfilled than when they aren’t. Masturbation isn’t something we have to do, but it’s something a lot of us like to do.

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Today’s young professional women are more in touch with their own wants and desires, and, rather than trying to fulfill their every sexual satisfaction through the discovery of someone else, they know how to take matters into their own hands.”